I am very, very sorry for that. I think you must be very strong and not weak at all, to go through something like that and come out of it afterwards. I am glad to hear that there were helpful women around you also. I see why you have your point of view too and in all, of course I agree that we should be supportive of each other. My experience is that guys bullied me everyday for nine years and if it hadn't been for the girls around me I would be much more of a mental wreck than I am now. I guess that is why I am somewhat "protective" of girls being judged as worse than men.@gisela: I was in a abusive relationship, I had several girls call me stupid to my face and weak. Strangely enough those girls only talked afterwards, not while I was still with the bastard. Same goes for most of the girls in my supportgroup at that time, they had the same experience. Ofcourse there are women who did help me, luckily, but the fact that those girls started....well thats what I mean with the initial statement.