Dancing for Arab men only... - Page 2

Lydia dubai · 12-11-2006, 07:19 PM

Hi there....i dont know how inportant this restaurant realy is for you?but can you not talk to the owner and tell him that you prefer to dance to the normal mixed crowd and not seperate for a just male crowd in another room,can you not be honest with him? if it was me i would not ...i just would tell the boss frankly that i feel uncomf. beside that i think its not good for your name....when other geust see you going there ....But after all i live and work in the middle east where people think a bit differant......the idea of going whit a companion is not bad so you stay on the safe site and nobody can gossip....goodluck Lydia

Yasmine Bint Al Nubia · 12-11-2006, 07:39 PM

Hi Saphira, I think just going with your "gut' is not the part of your body that needs to make this decision. Use your brain! Dancing for Arab men is no different than dancing just for the local guys at the pub, thier nationality shouldn't be a factor. Who are these men that meet on a regular basis at the club? Do you have a contract with the owner and what are the expectations for your performance? Since you mentioned that there is a mixed crowd at the club, why are these men having there private BD show? And why are you the only one?

A professional dancer does not put herself in potentially dangerous situations just for the love of the dance. Use common sense and HIRE a chaperone if dancing there is so important to you and insist on his presence, if the owner balks at this then maybe he and the others have more on their minds than the artistic representation of Raks Sharki!

Yasmine

Sara · 12-11-2006, 08:03 PM

Hmm, they both have a point actually... now that I think about it, it might not look too good, or sound it.

But- if you're appy doing it, you might want to think about it.

Aniseteph · 12-11-2006, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Yasmine Bint Al Nubia

Use common sense and HIRE a chaperone if dancing there is so important to you and insist on his presence...

I think the male assistant/bodyguard/tip-collector thing sounds great, though I am getting mental pictures of an East End bouncer in a fez and harem trousers... I think they'd want extra for that.
But seriously, I agree with everyone else. If they really want you to dance they will go along with your terms, and if they object to your having a minder of some sort - why? Is the room really so small he couldn't sit in the corner and hold your veil or mind the music?

Sapphira · 12-11-2006, 09:08 PM

Success! I've arranged a male tabla player to accompany me for this weekend!

I'll let you all know how it goes.

Thanks for such wonderful advice and feedback. x

Sara · 12-11-2006, 09:10 PM

Cool site by the way.

Sapphira · 12-11-2006, 09:33 PM

Cheers, mate!

da Sage · 12-11-2006, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Sapphira

Success! I've arranged a male tabla player to accompany me for this weekend!

Hooray! That should be a fun gig (and my mind is set at ease on your behalf). Have a great time!

Miss_Winnii · 01-07-2007, 10:14 PM

I forgot to say, wear a wedding ring, I also have a new job at a turkish doner kebab house and my husband said to me, always say you have a man, husband boyfriend etc, and he was right, they treat me with respect and because im the only female at that moment, im not directly someone different

12-11-2006, 07:19 PM	#11 (permalink)
Lydia dubai V.I.P. Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Dubai United arab emirates Posts: 1,338	dancing for men only Hi there....i dont know how inportant this restaurant realy is for you?but can you not talk to the owner and tell him that you prefer to dance to the normal mixed crowd and not seperate for a just male crowd in another room,can you not be honest with him? if it was me i would not ...i just would tell the boss frankly that i feel uncomf. beside that i think its not good for your name....when other geust see you going there ....But after all i live and work in the middle east where people think a bit differant......the idea of going whit a companion is not bad so you stay on the safe site and nobody can gossip....goodluck Lydia

12-11-2006, 08:03 PM	#13 (permalink)
Sara V.I.P. Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wales/Yorkshire Posts: 1,160	Hmm, they both have a point actually... now that I think about it, it might not look too good, or sound it. But- if you're appy doing it, you might want to think about it. __________________ With a little bit of this and a little bit of that, now shake your bum.... :P

12-11-2006, 09:10 PM	#16 (permalink)
Sara V.I.P. Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wales/Yorkshire Posts: 1,160	Cool site by the way. __________________ With a little bit of this and a little bit of that, now shake your bum.... :P

12-11-2006, 07:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
Yasmine Bint Al Nubia V.I.P. Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Akron, Ohio Posts: 1,132	Hi Saphira, I think just going with your "gut' is not the part of your body that needs to make this decision. Use your brain! Dancing for Arab men is no different than dancing just for the local guys at the pub, thier nationality shouldn't be a factor. Who are these men that meet on a regular basis at the club? Do you have a contract with the owner and what are the expectations for your performance? Since you mentioned that there is a mixed crowd at the club, why are these men having there private BD show? And why are you the only one? A professional dancer does not put herself in potentially dangerous situations just for the love of the dance. Use common sense and HIRE a chaperone if dancing there is so important to you and insist on his presence, if the owner balks at this then maybe he and the others have more on their minds than the artistic representation of Raks Sharki! Yasmine

12-11-2006, 09:08 PM	#15 (permalink)
Sapphira Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: London Posts: 43	Success! I've arranged a male tabla player to accompany me for this weekend! I'll let you all know how it goes. Thanks for such wonderful advice and feedback. x

12-11-2006, 09:33 PM	#17 (permalink)
Sapphira Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: London Posts: 43	Cheers, mate!

01-07-2007, 10:14 PM	#19 (permalink)
Miss_Winnii Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Nijmegen Posts: 69	I forgot to say, wear a wedding ring, I also have a new job at a turkish doner kebab house and my husband said to me, always say you have a man, husband boyfriend etc, and he was right, they treat me with respect and because im the only female at that moment, im not directly someone different