Stabbed in the back, or over reaction?

Anjanah · 02-09-2010, 02:04 AM

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Thank you all for your responses.

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Anj

Mosaic · 02-09-2010, 02:13 AM

I think you need to speak with your teacher, ask her why the change ( don't say anything about the other student jenny) just seek answers for her change of heart, and also explain to her you have prepared for this opportunity carefully.

Yes I would probably be upset and hurt, but would like to know why she has changed her mind and hasn't let you know.

Maybe the girl jenny spoke to her and asked her for the opportunity and placed the teacher on the spot and maybe she found it hard to say no, some people are like that if they are confronted by a strong personality. But give your teacher a chance to explain, regardless of how this came about she needs to tell you that she has changed her mind and she should have done so before announcing the change to the class.

I am sorry that this has happened to you as you have prepared well.
~Mosaic

PS: Welcome to the forum

Anjanah · 02-09-2010, 02:23 AM

Thanks for your response.

Mosaic · 02-09-2010, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Anjanah

Thanks for your response.

I don't think Jenny could care less about teaching a belly dancing class to be honest with you. Last time she did it she seemed very uncomfortable and awkward. She is VERY soft spoken and shy.

Did they forget the asked me? My teacher is a lovely and sweet woman who would never intentionally hurt anyone. She is one of those teachers who doesn't correct anyone in class either.... ( i know ).

You could've hit the nail on the head, maybe your teacher did forget, saw jenny or something and asked her. Do speak to your teacher, it seems to be a misunderstanding rather than a stab in the back.
~Mosaic

Shanazel · 02-09-2010, 02:34 AM

Goodness, don't just disappear over what might well be a misunderstanding! By all means, speak to the lady. If you don't, you'll always wonder what happened and she'll wonder why you disappeared without a word and you both could be upset for donkeys years. I'm sorry you have been so disappointed after planning so happily. It is a hard blow to take.

Anjanah · 02-09-2010, 02:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Mosaic

You could've hit the nail on the head, maybe your teacher did forget, saw jenny or something and asked her. Do speak to your teacher, it seems to be a misunderstanding rather than a stab in the back.
~Mosaic

Oh I know it wasn't a deliberate hurt on their part. I also know if I bring this up to teacher I will burst into tears and she will feel really bad.

Anjanah · 02-09-2010, 02:46 AM

Thanks everyone

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Aziyade · 02-09-2010, 03:18 AM

Everything you're feeling is valid, since it's your emotion. I'm sorry you've had something you obviously were so excited about taken away

But I agree with the other posters that you should talk to the teacher. Just tell her you thought it was understood that you were going to be taking over classes and you wondered what changed her mind. Be civil and assume it was a misunderstanding unless she tells you otherwise. You obviously have a real passion to teach, and she should know that.

When you talk to her, let us know what she says, ok? And do talk to her. If you don't, it will eat at you forever.

Anjanah · 02-09-2010, 03:23 AM

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Aziyade · 02-09-2010, 03:31 AM

Email her maybe? Before she goes on vacation.

BTW - it might be a good idea to take that class with "Jenny." You can learn something -- about being a teacher, even if it's what NOT to do.

02-09-2010, 02:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
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02-09-2010, 02:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
Mosaic Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Melbourne Australia, but a Kiwi Posts: 3,786	I think you need to speak with your teacher, ask her why the change ( don't say anything about the other student jenny) just seek answers for her change of heart, and also explain to her you have prepared for this opportunity carefully. Yes I would probably be upset and hurt, but would like to know why she has changed her mind and hasn't let you know. Maybe the girl jenny spoke to her and asked her for the opportunity and placed the teacher on the spot and maybe she found it hard to say no, some people are like that if they are confronted by a strong personality. But give your teacher a chance to explain, regardless of how this came about she needs to tell you that she has changed her mind and she should have done so before announcing the change to the class. I am sorry that this has happened to you as you have prepared well. ~Mosaic PS: Welcome to the forum __________________ When your soles rest on the floor and you balance your weight on both of them, then you can rest in yourself, you are in your centre. With every step, you renew contact and the connection to the earth, to matter, to Mater the Mother. ~ Rosina Fawzia Al - Rawi

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02-09-2010, 02:34 AM	#5 (permalink)
Shanazel Moderator Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Rocky Mountains USA Posts: 8,397	Goodness, don't just disappear over what might well be a misunderstanding! By all means, speak to the lady. If you don't, you'll always wonder what happened and she'll wonder why you disappeared without a word and you both could be upset for donkeys years. I'm sorry you have been so disappointed after planning so happily. It is a hard blow to take.

02-09-2010, 03:18 AM	#8 (permalink)
Aziyade V.I.P. Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Cornfields of Evansville Indiana. Posts: 1,614	Everything you're feeling is valid, since it's your emotion. I'm sorry you've had something you obviously were so excited about taken away But I agree with the other posters that you should talk to the teacher. Just tell her you thought it was understood that you were going to be taking over classes and you wondered what changed her mind. Be civil and assume it was a misunderstanding unless she tells you otherwise. You obviously have a real passion to teach, and she should know that. When you talk to her, let us know what she says, ok? And do talk to her. If you don't, it will eat at you forever.

02-09-2010, 03:31 AM	#10 (permalink)
Aziyade V.I.P. Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Cornfields of Evansville Indiana. Posts: 1,614	Email her maybe? Before she goes on vacation. BTW - it might be a good idea to take that class with "Jenny." You can learn something -- about being a teacher, even if it's what NOT to do.