Women over 40 - Page 5

sedoniaraqs · 07-12-2008, 04:12 AM

I love grey and silver hair. I have a few near my hairline. Before I color my hair, I part the silvers out very carefully so as not to get any dye on them. I only wish I had more. If I take after my father, I may, but my mother does not have enough even at 65. Silver is the only color that could make me give up being a redhead. They are the rhinestones in my hair.

Caroline_afifi · 07-12-2008, 10:20 AM

I doubt I will ever turn grey myself but I saw Amel Tafsout at Raqs and OMG.
she has let her hair go silver and she looks fantastic! I am not just saying this, she really did. I think that perhaps the fact that she is darker skinned helps, as no colour in skin and hair can be a little too much.

sedoniaraqs · 07-12-2008, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Caroline_afifi

I doubt I will ever turn grey myself but I saw Amel Tafsout at Raqs and OMG.
she has let her hair go silver and she looks fantastic! I am not just saying this, she really did. I think that perhaps the fact that she is darker skinned helps, as no colour in skin and hair can be a little too much.

Yes, that is exactly the kind of silver hair I love! Amel is g-o-r-g-e-o-u-s!!

My grandmother was a dark brunette who started going silver in her 20's. Oh, to have that hair...

Shanazel · 07-12-2008, 05:26 PM

My mom's dark hair started going silver in her teens. When she died at 72, she had the most gorgeous hair I've ever seen. I inherited long lasting hair color from the other side of the family: I am 53 and have to search hard for any silver at all. My grandmother's hair was still black when she died, and my dad's was just beginning to get silver when he died at 74. Unfortunately, I also inherited the hips that go with the hair

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jenc · 07-13-2008, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by adiemus

I don't think aging itself is fantastic, I think the wonderful thing is just what you've said above: Experience of what can go arse-up in life though makes you happier with yourself as you age.
and the other thing you said: the best things about being old is you stop caring what people think

Sadly, I saw my mother yesterday. She is 66, and has just had a total hip joint replacement. We were talking about my daughter who is 15 and has an outrageous sense of style - Michelle was in a fluoro pink tutu, with holey fluoro pink tights over her black tights, a fluoro green, yellow and pink striped top, purple cardigan, and AT LEAST 150000 different coloured necklaces - black hair with a fluoro pink hairpiece. My mother pulled one of those 'do you know how dreadful your daughter looks' faces - and I mentioned that at least she was 'herself' and that I wished I'd done that at her age!

Mum then looked at my hair and said 'it's getting quite gray isn't it, you know you need to cut it shorter once its gray, older women with long gray hair look so old.' I replied that I wanted to leave my hair to grow long and gray, and she said 'well you won't be standing beside me then, they'll think you're older than I am!'.

This is from my mother who has worn the same hairstyle since she was in her 20's, and is white-haired!

To say I was offended is to understate the feeling - but my mother and I don't really understand each other anyway...!
The point is, I don't really care as much about what most people say (apart from my mother!), and provided that I feel comfortable in my own skin, and I'm reasonably healthy (OK so yes I do have osteo in my feet and fingers!), I think what I wear and how I look doesn't have to stick with 'tradition'.

Since this conversation I've scouted out a bunch of inspirational photographs from the internet of women with gloriously long and gray hair! I think they look great - here's one!!

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I have a mother like that..........She wonders why she never sees me. I have managed to learn how to take no notice of what my mother says, and so should you. we pass anecdotes round the family of guess what she said now.
A while ago it was her 80th birthday on the Sunday. We spent £30 on petrol, booked a hotel room, paid for ourselves, 2 daughters 1 partner to have a meal, also our share of hiring the room, wine etc, mum's meal for Saturday. Big 4 generation party. (She said she didn't want a present, but I made sure she had something to open anyway.) We had to go back early on the Sunday, as did one sister, leaving my brother and his family, my sister and her children including great-grandson to have cake with her, and she said I just wish someone could have made a bit more fuss on my actual birthday!!

07-12-2008, 04:12 AM	#41 (permalink)
sedoniaraqs Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: cultural wasteland of the midwestern US Posts: 569	I love grey and silver hair. I have a few near my hairline. Before I color my hair, I part the silvers out very carefully so as not to get any dye on them. I only wish I had more. If I take after my father, I may, but my mother does not have enough even at 65. Silver is the only color that could make me give up being a redhead. They are the rhinestones in my hair.

07-12-2008, 10:20 AM	#42 (permalink)
Caroline_afifi V.I.P. Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Liverpool UK Posts: 1,039	I doubt I will ever turn grey myself but I saw Amel Tafsout at Raqs and OMG. she has let her hair go silver and she looks fantastic! I am not just saying this, she really did. I think that perhaps the fact that she is darker skinned helps, as no colour in skin and hair can be a little too much.

07-12-2008, 05:26 PM	#44 (permalink)
Shanazel Moderator Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Rocky Mountains USA Posts: 4,227	My mom's dark hair started going silver in her teens. When she died at 72, she had the most gorgeous hair I've ever seen. I inherited long lasting hair color from the other side of the family: I am 53 and have to search hard for any silver at all. My grandmother's hair was still black when she died, and my dad's was just beginning to get silver when he died at 74. Unfortunately, I also inherited the hips that go with the hair .