chryssanthi sahar

Well this is a possibility, but maybe those guys should be at least bisexual, otherwise it would be unfair towards the wives or girlfriends. Except if they are lesbian But seriously now, I think the best for gay guys is just to accept their homosexuality and stand for it. Except if they live in very suppressive societies, where you are in life danger, when people find out that you are gay (like in some Muslim countries. Or maybe in some very conservative ares in the US). But even my gay friends in Cairo wouldn't ever marry just to conceal their sexual preferences.

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Shanazel

Easier for whom? Poor girlfriend, stuck with a guy who doesn't dig women. Poor guy, too, trying to get by with a girl instead of another guy. Oh what tangled webs we weave...

Zorba

YES!

I've found that gay guys tend to be the ones who most want to enforce a strait jacket version of "masculinity", be it in dance, dress, life, or whatever. I have some theories that are probably not politically correct - I'll have to bounce them off of a gay friend and see what he says.

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Zardoz

I have only known one gay guy in my life (By known I don’t mean “Hey how you doing?” kind of known. I mean show-up-at-his-house-anytime-of-day-with-a-12-pack-and-get-the-drinking-on kind of known) and he never seemed self conscious about his masculinity or lack there of. Maybe he is the exception to the rule though. Hes gonna flip when I talk to him next and tell him Im doing this.

Dipali

My god Chryssanthi. You are quite a lady. I have to be all padded up when I meet you, .

Lol. Chryssanthi there are a lot of relationships out there which is probably unusual compare to what we call normal.I was watching a programm on SBS, a free to air channel which broadcasts probably the most controversial and sometimes absolutely bizzare stories. Anyway it was called Post modern family. One gay, one bisexual and a straight women lived together for 15 years . The bisexual guy left the relationship after 13 years . The gay guy is still living with the straight women because they had 2 babbies while they all slept together. But i do understand what you mean . My comments meant to be a joke.

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MyCapoeira

Most male dancers are perceived as gay, and in reality, the majority of them usually are. However, that shouldn't stop you from doing what you love. I too had questions about this when I came to the board. I practice capoeira and I wanted to learn bellydancing. I have been practicing for about a month or two now, and I love it. I have never had a problem with anyone yet, but im sure I will hear it sooner or later, I just don't care. I have a girlfriend and shes what matters to me, not people who think im gay.

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Dipali

I meant easier to find a girl.

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Shanazel

Easier for a gay guy to find a girlfriend than a boyfriend? Why would he want to do that? Never mind- I think I have lost track of this conversation. Back to lurking.

Dipali

Shanazel the comments I made in my previous post was a joke. In any case gay guys(or lesbian ) getting married is not a new thing. I mentioned Liza Menneli because her husband Peter Ellen was gay. Rock hudson I believe he was married. And Elton John .....Many gay guys(not all) get married or find a GF because its easier for them to live in a society with a woman than man.

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Sharif

Seriously, Zardoz:
Just join a belly class and see if you like it enough to put in the time. Don't worry about outside perceptions, it's not important and people will talk anyway. It's better to know what they are talking about! In fact, we need more straight guys to join, to bring the balance more to the 1:20 gays we have in society.
It has never been a problem for me in terms of harassment, and in general the women who overwhelming populate this dance are very welcoming of men who want to study it seriously (and are not there mainly to hit on them).

You'll have even more fun doing this together with your wife - you can study together and help each other in ways that other dancers can't. And although this is not a couple's dance by any stretch of the imagination, there are good opportunities for duets, and people love those. One of my teachers, Kamaal, remarked that you cannot overdo it with the affection in a male-female duet, and I think he's right. No matter how revoltingly sweet you try to make it, people will eat it up and love it!

Good luck, and hope to see you two on a stage together soon!

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