Aisha Azar

Dear Stacy,
Isn't that rather cutting off your nose to spite your face? Because one person's (or one thread's) posts upset you, you cut yourself off from a whole world of other, really great posts? I probably am the recipient of some really nasty posts, more than just about anyone else on this forum, because of some of my very clear cut statements about dance. If I let that get me down to the point of feeling like I want to leave the forum, there is much that I will not learn, because the forum has members who have so much to contribute to my knowledge. My skin is no thicker than anyone else's, but I have learned that if I cut myself off from my fellow dancers just because we don't agree on some issues, the only person I hurt is me.
Regards,
A'isha

sstacy123

well to my best recollection it was a weight loss board and you know there are no shortage of those...There wasn't really people on there I considered friends so I didn't consider it a great loss to find another board.

I'm sure that not everybody felt the way those that were posting felt but I just had no desire to have any kind of communications with people like that.

charity

why one would want to use a bd forum to belittle another is beyond me. this is a reason for people to talk and discuss bd, not to promote one's beliefs over another. besides how arrogant is that to think we give a shit what they believe.

but on another note i can think of a lot of reasons to belittle someone

Aisha Azar

Dear Charity,
I have a question. Why do you belong to a forum if you do not "give a shit" what other people believe? I care very much what dancers with experience and knowledge in their field believe. I also care very much when young dancers are led to believe things that are simply not true.
Regards,
A'isha

charity

when it comes to bd i do care what everyone here thinks. i joined the bd forum for that guidance. and though right now i feel like i'm in a verbal volley with a few, its not what i inteded.

the discussion was in regards to people who feel the need to come onto this forum and belittle people. the quote i used above, said everyone is entitled to an opinion. and yes this is true even for the bullies. and though i am here for the bd, i could care less in regards to what people think on personal issues. they can say what they want, it doesnt mean i will care what they believe because they do not know me.

as far as the dance, yes i know i have MUCH to learn, i've just begun.

da Sage

Dear A'isha,

This forum is full of dancers with experience and knowledge in their field...and also newbies and the occasional bellydance fan. Not every forum is like this one. Some forums are mostly newbies and fans.

Some forums are full of people who only want to amuse themselves, not educate themselves and others. Other participants think their points are best made with teeth and claws.

I personally belong to many forums, on a variety of subjects. I've also withdrawn from many forums, even ones populated by knowledgable, experienced members, because of time concerns, discussion content, and member attitudes. Why spend time in a forum if you don't enjoy it? That time may be better spent in another forum...or *horrors* offline.

Aisha Azar

Dear Da Sage and Charity,
Aaaahhh, that's true, there are many forums where people might not be so nice as they generally are here, (even in spite of the occasional spat!).
I used to belong to many more and was even kicked off of one once, for arguing with the owner! I was in good company as Leyla Lanty, Jeanette Cool, Linda Mahboula and a few others were also ousted. We actually considered it an honor!!
I now belong to just two forums and that is plenty if thre are enough contributors who are thinking people that care about the dance.
Regards,
A'isha