Are you happy with your weight? - Page 2

Reen.Blom · 02-08-2008, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by TribalDancer

I am fine with my weight, whatever it is. But I am unhappy with my SIZE.
I find weight to not be a good way to measure how I feel about me. It's how I fit in my clothes, and what fashions are made available to me at my size, that makes me feel good or bad.

Hey Tribal Dancer This is exactly how I feel! To me weight is a number and it is about how I feel aboput my body and how my clothes fit.... but well technically speaking I will feel better wiyth a couple kilos off..... need to tone up!

Mosaic · 02-09-2008, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by KuteNurse

Awww Mosaic,

I am also battling the large breast dilemna. I just noticed you are Australian? Perhaps your insurance pays for reductions? My insurance does pay. The backbone is the groves that the bra straps leaves on your shoulders and from having backpain. I have heard it is a painful surgery and a long recovery. I have also heard "RUMORS" of mishaps during surgery. One such is a doctor did not reattach a nipple, causing the nipple to have to be removed. That kinda scares me a bit. I would imagine the trick to feeling secure about such a surgery is having the best doctor. Good luck to you and keep on trying

Hugs.

Insurance covers practically zilch for breast reduction. around Aud$700 each breast - that is the medicare (gov't and private insurance total lumped together)- so you are out of pocket by around $5000. Some years ago if you were referred to a surgeon by your doc it was fully covered. But somewhere a long the line, the health minister ( male) decided that women should pay for it themselves. Obviously his wife/mother etc didn't have any probs. said health minister and his cohorts were looking for ways to save money so heaps of things were lumped under cosmetic surgery and the majority of the cost then fell on the individual.

I know what you mean about the shoulder dents. I must have spent 100s and 100s of dollars trying to find the right bra. 90% are worn once or twice and discarded. You try them on in a fitting room, and they appear to be a good fit, etc, but you really can't tell in 5 minutes if they will be comfortable, supportive etc. Most of the time after wearing them for several hours you just can't wait to get them off. Your shoulders feel like some giant has been standing on & crushing them and I also find that to get the support needed, that they seem to cut into your ribs quite painfully.

I would love to be a nice 34/36 small C again <sigh>

I have heard horror stories too, so far none here in Oz, but if I ever went ahead I would very carefully research the cosmetic surgeons before settling on one. Most of the cosmetic surgeons are reconstruction/trauma surgeons as well. They don't just practice cosmetic stuff. They obviously do a lot as that is where the money is.

One surgeon here ( maybe others I don't know about) he uses a minimal invasive method of a form of lipo for reductions, which sounds really good, and the skin apparently shrinks really well, downtime and pain is also dramatically decreased. I think I would go for that method rather than the big chop kind of thing

Just wish it was cheaper. Both methods cost the same.

Brea · 02-09-2008, 01:13 AM

Funny, I was just about to post about this!

I think women have major body issues anyway, so there's that, but frankly I am not happy weighing what I do. However, it boggles me, because (for instance) this week I have been working out three times a day, EVERY day...and on Monday the scale said 188 or 175 (I used two scales) and now they ALL say 195! Or maybe I was wearing my jacket, I don't remember. Anyway I always used to say I never used scales because weight does such bizarre things...better to use some other measurement, whenever that's discovered.

I can say, though, that no matter WHAT I weigh, onstage I am GORGEOUS.

I am interested to hear responses from the guys! Hey guys! Do you feel this way? I wonder if men who bellydance think more about that than men who don't...I would also like to do some kind of survey on the kinds of people, both female and male, that get into this dance, and why...

OK sorry tangent over.

TribalDancer · 02-09-2008, 08:04 PM

I can speak for my husband. He definitely does feel the same way. He does not really look at weight either, but how much of a "gut" he feels he has, how his shirts hang on him, etc. I do believe he thinks about it less than me, and most of the time in matter-of-fact terms rather than self-deprecating. "I really need to loose some weight" rather than, "How did I let myself get so fat? Everyone is looking at my rolls. *cringe*"

He has his moodier moments where he gets down on himself, but the rest of the time, being overweight and needing to loose weight is just a fact for him. And for me, it is more tied to my ego and everyday belief in self.

And the funny thing is, I realize now how much I feel responsible for HIS image in my own image. For instance, going to his company holiday party. I fussed over making sure I looked as beautiful as possible, not for me but for HIM. So his friends would see he had a pretty, put together wife. It was a strangely "domestic" feeling I had never noted before. Anyone else ever notice this? That you feel the need to look good not only for yourself, but feel responsible for doing it for others around you, too?

Louise · 04-02-2008, 10:05 PM

I'm happy with my weight. My own problem is where that weight has ended up lol. Mostly in my legs and not enough in my chest

But I think belly dance has really given me more confidence though

adiemus · 04-03-2008, 04:17 AM

I'm happy with my weight. Of course I'd love the distribution of my weight to be a little different and for my legs to be a little longer to take up the excess weight from my bum and hips - but overall I'm really happy with how I look. I'm flexible, my body is mainly in proportion, I'm healthy, and all the bits work basically.
I think women often dress to suit other people - and often not for the men in our lives, but for other women! The men in my life often say they don't really want to see women in heels and makeup with fussed up hair, they'd like to see us more natural, yet so many women wear things like high heels and loads of makeup and hairsprayed hair before they walk out the door!
At least I'm honest with myself, I dress the way I do for myself - I love nice colours and feeling like my clothes suit me and my size and shape. Tough if the people around me don't think it's OK - although I did have to pull my horns in at work when it was decided that perhaps sequins and hip belts don't really belong in a Pain Management Centre!! wot's wrong wivvit I say?!!!

Jane · 04-03-2008, 05:43 AM

I'm not overweight, I'm undertall

I'd like to take off a bit of the inner thighs; when I shimmy in skirts sometimes I get a smacking sound.

It's all between the belly button and the knees dang it.

Farasha Hanem · 04-03-2008, 06:20 AM

I didn't vote on the poll, because honestly, I'm not sure if I'm happy with my weight yet or not (I know that sounds strange). I like my body image a little more than I did before I started taking classes, and I'm continuing to lose weight. When I first started BD classes, I weight 112 pounds (bear in mind I'm 4 ft. 9 inches). Now, I weigh 105. I'd like to get down to 95, but if I reach and stay at 100, I'll be happy.

At least I haven't had anyone ask me if I'm pregnant lately.

rita.jones56 · 04-03-2008, 08:56 PM

I could be considered a bit underweight but overall I'm very happy with my wieght and my body.

KuteNurse · 04-03-2008, 09:35 PM

I once heard from an anatomy and physiology teacher that if you drink a can of diet soda everyday for a week, you actually gain one pound. It has to do with the way the diet soda metabolizes. My son has been slimming down for cycling and he has stopped drinking diet pop altogether and he dropped 3 pounds he was struggling to lose up until he stopped drinking pop. I wonder if there is truth in this?

View Poll Results: Are you happy with your weight?
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No	36	58.06%
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02-09-2008, 01:13 AM	#13 (permalink)
Brea V.I.P. Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,283	Funny, I was just about to post about this! I think women have major body issues anyway, so there's that, but frankly I am not happy weighing what I do. However, it boggles me, because (for instance) this week I have been working out three times a day, EVERY day...and on Monday the scale said 188 or 175 (I used two scales) and now they ALL say 195! Or maybe I was wearing my jacket, I don't remember. Anyway I always used to say I never used scales because weight does such bizarre things...better to use some other measurement, whenever that's discovered. I can say, though, that no matter WHAT I weigh, onstage I am GORGEOUS. I am interested to hear responses from the guys! Hey guys! Do you feel this way? I wonder if men who bellydance think more about that than men who don't...I would also like to do some kind of survey on the kinds of people, both female and male, that get into this dance, and why... OK sorry tangent over. __________________ www.breamorgiane.com

04-03-2008, 04:17 AM	#16 (permalink)
adiemus Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Christchurch, New Zealand Posts: 977	I'm happy with my weight. Of course I'd love the distribution of my weight to be a little different and for my legs to be a little longer to take up the excess weight from my bum and hips - but overall I'm really happy with how I look. I'm flexible, my body is mainly in proportion, I'm healthy, and all the bits work basically. I think women often dress to suit other people - and often not for the men in our lives, but for other women! The men in my life often say they don't really want to see women in heels and makeup with fussed up hair, they'd like to see us more natural, yet so many women wear things like high heels and loads of makeup and hairsprayed hair before they walk out the door! At least I'm honest with myself, I dress the way I do for myself - I love nice colours and feeling like my clothes suit me and my size and shape. Tough if the people around me don't think it's OK - although I did have to pull my horns in at work when it was decided that perhaps sequins and hip belts don't really belong in a Pain Management Centre!! wot's wrong wivvit I say?!!! __________________ He wahine, he taonga- Every woman is a treasure(Maori proverb)

04-03-2008, 08:56 PM	#19 (permalink)
rita.jones56 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 15	I could be considered a bit underweight but overall I'm very happy with my wieght and my body. __________________ Celebrate the moment

02-09-2008, 08:04 PM	#14 (permalink)
TribalDancer Moderator Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 313	I can speak for my husband. He definitely does feel the same way. He does not really look at weight either, but how much of a "gut" he feels he has, how his shirts hang on him, etc. I do believe he thinks about it less than me, and most of the time in matter-of-fact terms rather than self-deprecating. "I really need to loose some weight" rather than, "How did I let myself get so fat? Everyone is looking at my rolls. cringe" He has his moodier moments where he gets down on himself, but the rest of the time, being overweight and needing to loose weight is just a fact for him. And for me, it is more tied to my ego and everyday belief in self. And the funny thing is, I realize now how much I feel responsible for HIS image in my own image. For instance, going to his company holiday party. I fussed over making sure I looked as beautiful as possible, not for me but for HIM. So his friends would see he had a pretty, put together wife. It was a strangely "domestic" feeling I had never noted before. Anyone else ever notice this? That you feel the need to look good not only for yourself, but feel responsible for doing it for others around you, too?

04-02-2008, 10:05 PM	#15 (permalink)
Louise Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: London, UK Posts: 83	I'm happy with my weight. My own problem is where that weight has ended up lol. Mostly in my legs and not enough in my chest But I think belly dance has really given me more confidence though

04-03-2008, 05:43 AM	#17 (permalink)
Jane Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: In the mountains Posts: 443	I'm not overweight, I'm undertall I'd like to take off a bit of the inner thighs; when I shimmy in skirts sometimes I get a smacking sound. It's all between the belly button and the knees dang it.

04-03-2008, 06:20 AM	#18 (permalink)
Farasha Hanem Moderator Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: In the heartland of the USA Posts: 615	I didn't vote on the poll, because honestly, I'm not sure if I'm happy with my weight yet or not (I know that sounds strange). I like my body image a little more than I did before I started taking classes, and I'm continuing to lose weight. When I first started BD classes, I weight 112 pounds (bear in mind I'm 4 ft. 9 inches). Now, I weigh 105. I'd like to get down to 95, but if I reach and stay at 100, I'll be happy. At least I haven't had anyone ask me if I'm pregnant lately.

04-03-2008, 09:35 PM	#20 (permalink)
KuteNurse V.I.P. Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Duluth, Minnesota Posts: 2,986	I once heard from an anatomy and physiology teacher that if you drink a can of diet soda everyday for a week, you actually gain one pound. It has to do with the way the diet soda metabolizes. My son has been slimming down for cycling and he has stopped drinking diet pop altogether and he dropped 3 pounds he was struggling to lose up until he stopped drinking pop. I wonder if there is truth in this?