Originally Posted by da Sage

I don't know why you are asking us, since you are the licensed professional here. Although maybe someone will share their workout routine with you.

I also think you are projecting this "fear of bulking up" onto us belly dancers. I'm so fricking tired of people condescendingly telling me "Don't be worried about getting too much muscle", when I have NEVER IN MY LIFE said or done ANYTHING to make a logical person think I am afraid to gain muscle.

Where in this thread has anyone said that they are afraid of losing their girlish figures due to weight training?

Why don't you talk to the women whose bodies you admire (and cited above) about how they got that way? Since your stated purpose is to help change your wife's appearance, it's rather silly to ask advice of people whose bodies you haven't seen.

Or if you want professional advice, I would recommend that you seek out a local trainer whose work you admire. If you want bellydance-specific professional advice, contact Gerson Kuhr on the East Coast - he specializes in training bellydancers.