I can speak for my husband. He definitely does feel the same way. He does not really look at weight either, but how much of a "gut" he feels he has, how his shirts hang on him, etc. I do believe he thinks about it less than me, and most of the time in matter-of-fact terms rather than self-deprecating. "I really need to loose some weight" rather than, "How did I let myself get so fat? Everyone is looking at my rolls. *cringe*"
He has his moodier moments where he gets down on himself, but the rest of the time, being overweight and needing to loose weight is just a fact for him. And for me, it is more tied to my ego and everyday belief in self.
And the funny thing is, I realize now how much I feel responsible for HIS image in my own image. For instance, going to his company holiday party. I fussed over making sure I looked as beautiful as possible, not for me but for HIM. So his friends would see he had a pretty, put together wife. It was a strangely "domestic" feeling I had never noted before. Anyone else ever notice this? That you feel the need to look good not only for yourself, but feel responsible for doing it for others around you, too?
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