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janaki · 12-24-2007, 04:53 PM

Dear Lydia,

I will agree with everything Maria said. If I feel sensitive about stuff I stay out of it. If I know my comments will benifit any one in any way, I will go out and post it. Not all comments we posts has to sound sweet. Truth hurts many times!!! Also , when people are not communicating face to face, there is a already barrier and it is easy to misunderstand and misinterpret. Every person communicates differetly. Some are more direct and some are more polite, it is doesn't mean one is better than the other. Also the language we write in also affects. When people post videos and ask for feedback and advise, if if I am capable I will do it in a honest way possible without putting the person down. It is better to call a spade a spade!!!

I came to this forum early this year. Before I was a lurker. I loved this forum because people here express their honest opinion. I love this. And also the make up of this forum is so diverese and it is true world forum. There are members from every corner of the world.

IMO, if I am not doing a good job to this dance form I would prefer that some one to tap on my head and correct me rather than they being sweet and say everything I am doing is ok and acceptable.

Everybody is different. You may be a sensitive, you may see some posts as not sensitive and others may not see it. In a heated debate people get emotional and loose it sometime. At the end of the day you brush it off and go out and have a beer and shake hands. This is my philosophy.

Don't worry too much. People who belong they belong together. This forum is for everyone with varied backgrounds and expertise. In case like this, it is normal to have disagreements and stuff.

Happy holidays!!!

12-24-2007, 04:53 PM	#7 (permalink)
janaki V.I.P. Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: hong kong Posts: 1,215	Dear Lydia, I will agree with everything Maria said. If I feel sensitive about stuff I stay out of it. If I know my comments will benifit any one in any way, I will go out and post it. Not all comments we posts has to sound sweet. Truth hurts many times!!! Also , when people are not communicating face to face, there is a already barrier and it is easy to misunderstand and misinterpret. Every person communicates differetly. Some are more direct and some are more polite, it is doesn't mean one is better than the other. Also the language we write in also affects. When people post videos and ask for feedback and advise, if if I am capable I will do it in a honest way possible without putting the person down. It is better to call a spade a spade!!! I came to this forum early this year. Before I was a lurker. I loved this forum because people here express their honest opinion. I love this. And also the make up of this forum is so diverese and it is true world forum. There are members from every corner of the world. IMO, if I am not doing a good job to this dance form I would prefer that some one to tap on my head and correct me rather than they being sweet and say everything I am doing is ok and acceptable. Everybody is different. You may be a sensitive, you may see some posts as not sensitive and others may not see it. In a heated debate people get emotional and loose it sometime. At the end of the day you brush it off and go out and have a beer and shake hands. This is my philosophy. Don't worry too much. People who belong they belong together. This forum is for everyone with varied backgrounds and expertise. In case like this, it is normal to have disagreements and stuff. Happy holidays!!!