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Originally Posted by Aniseteph
If a guy wants to bestrew himself with beaded fringe, sequins and wear a dress to look beautiful, good for him (can't promise not to laugh if it misfires though - I love an Ugly Belly Dance Costume as much as the next girl). It's just that when a man really does look like a woman its distracting for me and I wonder why he's presenting himself like that. Does he feel he has to look like a woman to be beautiful? I don't know... but it's making a point about something. How we present ourselves, when we have a choice, always makes a point about something.
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This is (to my mind), a chicken and egg situation. If a male "looks like a woman" to be beautiful - is it because he's really wanting to look like a woman - or is it because "beauty" is something that has been DENIED him for centuries - so ANYTHING beautiful could be perceived as "feminine". To my mind, it isn't "like a woman" unless it involves biology - ie breasts.
I have yet to see a dress that looks good on the male form. Not saying it doesn't exist - only that I haven't seen it. Dresses are cut for the female form, a male version would have to be made differently.
OTOH, a skirt works just fine on either gender (no biological issues here) - although I haven't worn one for Belly Dance performances - the "know your audience" bit. I was in a gypsy style workshop once where I was chosen to help the instructor demonstrate a "two dancer skirtwork routine" as I was the best in the class at skirtwork (yea, I'm rather proud of that - and I sure was having fun!). My regular instructor is making noises about a gypsy skirt style group choreography - and you can bet I'll be in the middle of it!
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I think maybe it's that you bring your personality. IMO dancers who can manage to do that (or fake it convincingly? difficult!), male or female, are appealing. Maybe that's why you're plagued by feral women! :eek:
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Well, I hope that's it. Bringing one's personality/attitude to the stage is what its all about - and what I strive for. I have a long way to go to get good at it though...