One further though - I never can just shut up about it already!
I probably send out so many conflicting signals that a lot of people either don't know WHAT to think (an uncomfortable spot to be in for most people) about my gender/sexuality, etc - and/or they just default to what they see which is undeniably male. And that's just in "Real Life"!
"Keep 'em Guessing" is my motto - "Never be predictable".
I might get entirely different reactions if I didn't have facial hair - that de-"feminizes" darn near anything.
I know you (Tarik) disagree with me here - but to my mind the ultimate frontier for either gender is androgyny - something I can't pull off! If I can't figure out what gender a performer is (regardless of artform chosen), I'm just fascinated and think that's the coolest thing! The other social preoccupation - sexuality - I seldom think about it as I don't care what another person's sexuality is - I'm old fashioned in that regard - its their business, not mine!